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spanking2Dear Miss Demeanour,

My Partner is interested in exploring corporal punishment, but I have no idea where to start. In fact I’m a complete amateur on the subject. Your advice would be very much appreciated.

Anon

Administering CP is an art, a skill to be perfected. To not perfect it is to deny the pleasure for both the person administering it and the recipient.

The person that enjoys receiving CP often discovers the enjoyment by accident, a playful spanking perhaps that provoked arousal. Sometimes it is an early punishment memory that remained embedded in the mind and re-enacted while aroused turning the punishment into an act of pleasure.

In the most part the recipient sees the act as pleasure and gains arousal, a smaller portion see it as punishment for something that have done to displease the person administering it and very little arousal is gained.

CP can be administered over the knee but it is better done over a whipping bench with the recipient strapped down. A safe word should always be offered and respected if used.

A good CP session always begins with a warm up, this is done by spanking and after 10 or so spanks on each cheek the flesh is rubbed. This helps the release of endorphins which in turn enables the recipient to take more punishment. It should also be done between implements for the same purpose.

A variety of implements are often used after the initial spanking and will have been laid out in the order of which they are to be used. Each implement feeling different and harsher than the previous.
Common implements used include;

Paddle: Either made of leather or wood with rubber on one side and the size and shape of a ping pong ball bat.

Tawse: Made of leather, long and around 4 inches in width, but split into two or three strips.

Whip: There are many different types of whip, some soft, some harsh so a few might be used.

Riding Crop Nothing gives a more satisfying sound to someone administering CP than the crop. The swish followed by the crack as it is landed is an audible delight. In fact the mere act of swishing it around before landing it serves to heighten the arousal and anticipation.

Cane: Canes come in various thicknesses and like the whip more than one will often be used. The thinner canes leave a harsher sting while the thicker will leave deeper markings.

In a domestic setting these items may not be available but substitutes such as slippers, paddle brushes, belts and garden canes can be used.

The art is in the delivering, the hand and paddles are easy to use but the other items require a perfect aim. There is satisfaction to be gained with using the crop and cane to make perfect straight lines with gaps to fill in next time around. Caution must be taken not to hit the coccyx or in the case of a male recipient the testicles.

The recipient may become very highly aroused and it is not uncommon for an orgasm to occur, how this is dealt with will depend on the parties involved, it may provoke more punishment or be seen as failing to have self-control. Or it could be the reason for the CP session in the first place.

At the end of the session it is worth using Arnica cream which will bring out the bruising.

CP is not just reserved for the BDSM world, it can be used to spice things up in the bedroom, or any other room for that matter. One example being a role playing scenario such as a maid being given certain duties to perform and a punishment given for failure to meet standard, this would be an over the knee or table situation and household items used. As the bottom is rubbed better the hand would slip between the legs and the vagina stimulated.

The college girl/boy scenario is probably one of the most common role plays where a spanking or a caning might be given and is typically one in which a sexual element will play a part after the punishment is handed out. For a man just having a wriggling woman across his knee, her panties around her ankles, skirt pulled up and a bottom ripe and ready to spank is enough to provoke such an erection that the said female would be on her knees in no time.

Even if role play is not used a little spank here and there to illicit a squeal before or during sex is always worth a try. Then depending on how well it was received it can progress into something more elaborate. The key is to mix the pain with pleasure until it becomes and association, then just the mention of it will evoke arousal.

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