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cbt1One would be forgiven after looking at the title for assuming that this was an article on Cognitive Behavioural Therapy but for those in the world of BDSM it means something totally different.

Cock and ball torture is one of the most common areas of BDSM and even though for most men just the mere thought of it would have them crossing their legs for others just a hint of genital pain and they have a full erection.

For some submissives it’s solely the pain factor. The thought of pain coursing through their nether regions will excite them, for others it’s more the psychological aspect of being ‘owned’. Having a Mistress/Master inflicting pain on them purely just because they can and it brings them pleasure.

CBT obviously carries risks and it is for that reason that it is best administered by someone that is very experienced and a safe word put in place and respected. The person inflicting the torture must also be prepared to place certain limits regardless of the safe word.

Self-administering may not be as satisfying as having someone else do it or at the very last giving instructions, but can still bring immense pleasure to those who are so inclined.

CBT-WeightALWAYS air on the side of safety when practising CBT, you are after all playing with your/your MIstress’s/Master’s favourite toy! You wouldn’t want to do yourself any permanent mischief. The biggest concern with CBT is circulation. It’s essential to keep a close eye out for symptoms such as a loss in sensation, swelling or a loss of colour. Common injuries as a result of CBT include abrasions, bruises and small cuts. In time these will heal, but it is a good idea to treat with an ice pack to reduce the swelling and apply some antiseptic cream to cuts to avoid infection.

Before we move along to the fun stuff please bare these safety tips in mind!

Don’t

Leave clamps on for long periods of time
Leave CBT devices/weights on for prolonged periods or through the night
Tie the balls to anything. A sudden knee-jerk reaction could result in serious damage
Bind the penis/scrotum too tightly – you don’t want to cut off circulation
Insert anything into the urethra without adequate lubrication
Squeeze the penis too hard, it could damage the erectile tissue
Use sharp, hard hits
Let go of weights suddenly, lower them down gradually and gently

Do

Trim pubic hair for a clear view and to avoid snagging
Alleviate pressure every 20-30 minutes to restore circulation fully
Avoid genital bindings that cannot be easily untied/removed
Keep ‘quick release’ tools, such as EMT scissors and cock ring cutters, handy
Be gentle with piercings
Stop immediately if you notice a loss of sensation, swelling, numbness or loss of colour
Discuss boundaries and a safe word beforehand
Go slowly, gradually increasing intensity and monitoring reactions
Stop immediately if the pain starts to spread to other areas
Avoid any practices that seriously wrench or twist the genitals

So what items are commonly used in DIY CBT?

Basic items that can be found around the home include;

Wax – Drip the wax along the shaft and if the recipient is really brave over the head of the cock. Alternating heat and ice is a very effective way of increasing the intensity of both.

Ice – Used alone or with the wax, placing the balls or the whole cock into a bowl of ice.

Pegs – Placed on the ball sack and along the shaft. Rough wanking could then be used to flick the pegs off the shaft. Then can be pulled off the balls by either opening them or not. The advantage of not opening pegsthem is the loss of pubic hair.

Toothbrush and paste – Used to scrub the head of the cock. Lovely minty freshness!

Cotton buds – Used with toothpaste or depending on the recipient’s limits heat cream and gently put a little way into the urethra. Caution must be used doing this!

Heat cream – See above, can also be used to heat up the balls.

Elastic bands – Wrap around the shaft, slip a little finger under and ping it. Can also be used around the top of the balls to pull them down. Do not leave it on for too long though.

Thin rope – Tied around the shaft or the balls.

Shoe – Used as a weight tied around the balls.

Wooden spoon – to beat it with of course

Crocodile clips – Used in the same way as pegs with more of a bite. Never pull these off of the ball sack though because you will rip the delicate skin.

Pot scourer – The type that is a ring to place over the shaft and wank, squeezing nice and tight.

Sandpaper – Again for wanking, be careful as blood can be drawn easily.

More advanced items include;

Parachute with weights – The parachute is often studded, wrapped around the balls and then weights added making the studs dig in.parachute weight

Electrics – Small pads placed on the cock and/or balls and a small electrical current administered, the intensity increased up to the limit of the recipient.

Sounds rods – Used to increase the size of the urethra, not something to be done without a lot of research. Can be pleasurable or erotically painful.

In a dungeon setting the man would normally be strapped to a bondage chair, his legs wide open and his cock and balls exposed for the Mistress or Master to consensually abuse.

In a home setting a normal chair can be used or the recipient could just sit with his legs open or even stand up. What items are used will depend on the individuals and what they have available and the level they wish to take it.

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